The Kashmir Mughlai-delicacies in weddings is not anything new that it might commonly warrant any reappraisal. However, over time, it has got so convoluted that greater than cuisine, it appears to be a large curse to wait for marriage, let alone arranging and coping with one. Marriages are probably arranged in heaven, but they’re truly messed up in Kashmir. The 
element of display-off has delivered new dimensions to our banquet, and one wonders whether we’re economically really devastated because of the long time-antique conflict? The normal seven-direction meal—rista, Rogan josh, paneer, palak, ab gosht, korma and goshtabah (this doesn’t consist of the dishes positioned over a mattress of rice)—has now been replaced by using a multi-cuisine extravaganza, making any occasion a sheer waste of assets. The rich may want to without problems find the money for such extravagance, but for the bad, it will become a lower back-breaking hobby as they must place all their meager sources together and, very often, go into debt for web hosting a marriage.
One could regularly pay attention to towns and villages blaming the town for inventing many rituals and customs—shehrikev hurarev bidder. But, my enjoy in South Kashmir tells me that Srinagar is some distance higher than the city in keeping restraint on the waste that is going unabated there. Although I even have controlled many weddings there, by no means earlier than did I see humans indulging in mindless spending on Kazan, making the whole occasion no longer simplest cumbersome in coping with however additionally arranging. Whether it’s far nishaen (engagement) or Chandra (wedding ceremony), the seven-route meal has come to be an issue of the beyond there. The Mughlai dishes positioned over a bed of rice within the serving plate (trauma) have undergone a radical trade inside the final 3 decades. While in Srinagar, seekh kebabs, fried rib pieces (Tanakh maaz), one piece of shank (Danni pool); one or two shami kebabs, one complete chook reduce in or 4 portions over a bed of rice is the regular serving, in South Kashmir, 4 seekh kebabs, 4 fried rib portions, four pieces of shank, two shami kebabs, two full chickens (one in pink chilli and some other organized in yoghurt), lesbi kebabs (minced mutton kebabs), a yoghurt-primarily based mutton piece, and a slice of cheese organized in tomato sauce over a bed of rice have grow to be a routine. The ‘whilst-ingesting’ dishes served one after the alternative may also range, relying on the capacity of the host. Serving veg in weddings has become a taboo in South Kashmir while in Srinagar cheese in tomato sauce and mushroom have an everlasting function.
Who taught South Kashmir that a plate should be so blanketed with mutton dishes? They can’t blame the metropolis for such extravagance because the city keeps with its age-antique lifestyle. It is ideal that people comply with the “takeaway” system, carrying nearly all mutton dishes within the polythene bags that are furnished in conjunction with water bottles, coke, and hand-wash materials—Srinagar hadn’t learned this trick until currently. The subsequent invitations—known as phrasal and sat-Raat (seventh day) in common parlance—are also much extraordinary from what we do in Srinagar. Serving dry fruit and juices is commonplace in each, but with tea, the South goes out of the manner in serving no longer most effective a massive pastry piece however additionally a container containing at the least 3 bakery items—kanddi kulcha being mandatory. The high-quality a part of the service is that the entirety that is served on those activities is carried home by way of the guests, being helped with the aid of the loved ones and/or pals of the host. While Sringarites opt for saffron keyway, the South remains glued to hot milk in a samovar.
One may additionally feel that extravagance in weddings is a part of our way of life and therefore there has been no need to talk about it. But, the fact of the problem is that we’ve got extended the range of dishes at a time while everybody bitch about of deteriorating financial conditions, specifically for the reason that 1990s and the out of doors global are looking our plight as moot spectators. On the only hand, we rue approximately having misplaced the whole lot to the struggle and, then again, we do not shy away from spending lavishly on the weddings, both in phrases of gold adorns and wazwan. It is abnormal that the sort of a waste of resources is neither taking place inside the China Valley, neither is it an exercise in Jammu Muslims. Who could trust us that we aren’t affluent and that we are suffering because of the struggle? There is no denying the truth that the prevailing battle has made many of us richer and lots of a wealthy has emerged as paupers, however, this is no purpose for us to waste our assets and make the arena giggle at us!
In this regard, the role of the preachers who claim to be the saviors of this hapless nation and who waste a variety of energy in shouting from pulpits approximately how Islam and Muslims are in the hazard on the fingers of non-Muslims is extremely pathetic. We, the humans of Kashmir, are doing everything that goes in opposition to the very spirit of Islam that teaches us to be just and cautious in our spending. Nobody has barred us from consuming however extravagance in any form is disliked–wakuloo washroom wall tusrifoo… (7:31). We are neither conscientious humans nor are our political and religious leaders able to increase awareness of human beings approximately this waste as they take part in such occasions without any objections. In the present scenario, such behavior could be very unfortunate. The ongoing war has devastated many households, leaving many women hapless and hopeless. The cash that we spend on the ‘curse’ known as wazwan may be higher applied to assist them, mainly the ones households that have lost their handiest bread winners due to the chaos and confusion that we find inside the streets of Kashmir. This madness needs to give up if we ought to live on! Let’s us make marriages less complicated and low-cost and our cuisine restrained to what we can without problems devour!
